Confidence is King so why not use it?

15 May 2016 8:00 PMMike Bennett
Confidence is King so why not use it?

For those of you who have met me at a network event or taken part in one of our training courses, you'll know that I don't have a problem accepting a compliment. Why should I? There are things I do in business and on the radio that have always been well received so why not just smile and say thank you very much?

Can you imagine going to a Robbie Williams concert, meeting him backstage, shaking his hand and telling him how much you enjoyed the show to have him respond with "Oh, do you really think so? I was so flat when I sang let me entertain you and my timing was out during the swing numbers!”

How would that make you feel? Disappointed that your hero wasn't perfect after you paid all that money to see him and let down that he didn't share your opinion of his performance?

Confidence is knowing that when you walk in front of a group of people, you know exactly how to put your message across and you have an inner belief that you can share something with them that they will find useful.

It's the same at a network event. If someone asks how good your service or product is would you say                  

"well, it's OK I suppose" or "we've not had many complaints?"  Surely it would be better to say "Our flux capacitors have gone down really well with our clients/customers this year and we've had some really positive feedback". Chances are, the person you're chatting to will check out your website, read the testimonials and become a customer or client.

Having self-belief and self-confidence will settle your audience if you're public speaking. If you've ever been to an open mic night and shared the pain of the ‘would be’ stand-up comedian who is sweating profusely and not connecting with the audience, you'll know how uncomfortable that can be so when the experienced and confident MC comes on there's a collective sigh of relief.

If you walk in to a room with a “look at me” attitude that’s arrogance. Telling people that they should use your product or service as everyone else’s is inferior is arrogant but agreeing with someone who tells you they like your product/service/show performance is really OK. False modesty is a turn off. If you’re good at what you do, and you know it, why not just admit it?

When a listener to my Monday Morning radio show on Logan 101FM tells me how good the show is (and that happens with alarming regularity!) I would never consider challenging their opinion – even if I’ve been over critical of my own performance.  I simply respond with “Thank you, I’m really pleased you enjoyed it and I appreciate your comments".

When you’re in business, running a company or department you have to believe that you are the best at what you do so if you’re asked how good you are, don’t hold back.

As the saying goes “If you’ve got it – flaunt it” . . . just be humble about it!  

Hi Mike, I treasure the two biggest gifts Mother Nature has given me: my self-confidence, I like who I am and I make no excuses for it, and respect for others who return respect.

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